LIFE & HEALTH CHALLENGES

Grief or Bereavement

Has the loss of a loved one left you feeling numb and bereft, lost, in shock, anxious, depressed, stressed, feeling isolated, unconfident, unable to sleep or eat?

There is no right or wrong way to live with grief, but there are ways to ease the aching void and find your equilibrium again.

What is grief?

  • Grief is a profound and complex series of mixed emotions that follow the loss of a loved one in your life.
  • It can be someone you loved very deeply, your absolute everything, or someone you knew in your community.
  • It can be expected or unexpected.
  • Either way, it can affect you and your family members, friends, colleagues and the extended community in a range of ways.

If you are dealing with grief

1. REALISE THAT EVERYONE DEALS WITH GRIEF DIFFERENTLY

There is no right or wrong way to grieve. Indeed, members of a family or community will often react very differently. Some people want solitude, while others won’t want to be alone. Some people want to talk about a loved one, while others might find conversations too difficult. Some people become oversensitive to everything, while others are oblivious to all but their own thoughts and feelings. Don’t compare your grief experience with other people’s grief experiences. Everyone’s finding their own way to live with it.

2. EXPECT TO FEEL MIXED EMOTIONS

Grief is complicated and changeable. Your heart might feel like it’s breaking. One minute you might be feeling bewildered and bereft, the next minute you’re feeling deeply sad or deeply angry. And sometimes you might feel relieved and pleased (and perhaps guilty) that your loved one is no longer suffering. All of these emotions are completely normal.

3. ASK FOR HELP

Grief is very difficult to live with all by ourselves. It’s important to reach out and ask for help from people you trust. Sometimes it can be a good talk with a friend or mate. You could also join a local support group, or ask your GP to refer you to a local grief and bereavement counsellor.

4.EXPRESS YOURSELF

While it helps to talk to others about your grief, it also helps to use a creative outlet for expressing and releasing all of those mixed emotions. Sometimes they cannot be expressed through spoken word alone. You could try writing and journaling, painting, woodworking, pottery or crafting. You could make music, dance or sing. Experiment and find the creative and therapeutic outlet that works best for you.

5. ALLOW YOURSELF TO FEEL SAD

Cry as much as you need to. Allow yourself to be quiet and still. Cry some more. Stay in your pyjamas all day. It helps to set some time aside for reflection. Take time off work if you need to. Ask someone to look after your children for the day. Don’t worry about answering the phone, emails, or running errands for a few days. And then cry some more.

6. LOOK AFTER YOURSELF

Do your best to eat, drink and sleep well. Exercise when you can. It gets the chemicals of our emotions circulating in our bodies and avoids these stress chemicals interfering with the functioning of our immune systems. It’s wise to minimise alcohol or illicit drug consumption when you’re grieving as it masks and therefore prolongs the feelings of grief. Try meditation or yoga to help calm your nervous system.

7. DO WHAT YOU LOVE

While your loved one is gone, you are still alive. It helps to do what you love to feel connected to yourself again. While it might be difficult at first, you will start to notice a difference in time. Some suggestions include: going for a bushwalk, being in nature, doing some gardening, getting a massage, listening to music, taking a warm bath, dancing, singing, spending time with your pet, other family members or friends, visiting a special place that is meaningful to you.

8. GIVE YOURSELF TIME

Grief does not work to a schedule or a timeline. Grieving is a process. Feeling ‘better’ can take weeks, months or years. Allow it to unfold at its own pace.

Toolkit

Petrea King Podcasts including

  • Dealing with Death
  • Saying goodbye to someone we love
  • 2020 the year of little griefs and how to process them
  • The Empty Chair at the Christmas Table

Book – Sometimes Hearts Have to Break by Petrea King. It sometimes takes a lifetime to bring us to our full glory. And sometimes it takes a life-threatening illness. The events of our lives, however tragic, can be a catalyst by which we shed all that stands in the way of us feeling deeply alive and at peace.

Some of these practices can help you to calm your mind and improve your wellbeing and can be found on our toolkit page:

  • Keys to help you sleep better
  • Meditation practices

How Quest for Life can help

Quest for Life can help you work through and live with grief through our residential programs – Living with Grief weekend and Healing Your Life 5-day program. By learning strategies and techniques to manage your response to life’s events, you can regain your equilibrium and ease the aching void.

Online Course: Living with Grief

The Living with Grief course costs $99

  • 4 self-paced Video Modules
  • Integrated workbook with reflective questions
  • Personal Plan template and guide
  • Additional resources – research and links
  • Downloadable meditation MP3s

Other Self-Paced Online CoursesBefriending Anxiety; Beyond Burnout and Healing Sleep – provide practical, positive and easy-to-follow guidance and advice. They encourage and help you to identify and implement strategies to build your resilience, and to incorporate these into your own personal plan for each course.

Fill in the Contact Form below and one of our Program Advisors will be in touch to answer your questions or to ascertain the most appropriate program for your needs.

Funding Options for Residential Programs

Self-Funding

Quest subsidises all privately or self-funded places to ensure the cost of our programs remains affordable to individuals. This allows us to reduce the fee from $4,400 to $2,800.

$2,200 Shared room (Early bird* $2,100 – must be paid 30 days in advance)
$2,800 Single room (Early bird* $2,700 – must be paid 30 days in advance)

Fees effective 1 July 2023.

Subsidies and Financial Help

Through generous grants, donations and fundraising, additional subsidies and financial help is available for a range of circumstances and anyone experiencing financial stress will be considered. We review each case individually and we do not means test. All applications are conducted via phone with a friendly member of the Programs intake team.

NDIS

Quest is a registered NDIS Provider. Residential Programs can be funded through plan-managed and self-managed NDIS plans.

DVA

We work with Department of Veteran Affairs (DVA) White Card or Gold Card holders to make applications to the DVA Health Approvals Board.

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Residential programs can be covered by workers compensation insurance on a case-by-case basis.

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